Einstein’s Golden Thoughts on Parenting – Part 2
Posted on: April 23, 2016. Comments ( 3 )

Author: Mrs. Radhika Mohan, Educational Consultant

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Many a times, we often get well-intentioned, wise and practical guidance from people around us, on maybe, how to potty-train a child or sleep-train a child, or feed a child, from our neighbors, friends, relatives, great-aunt, child coach, etc., We may take opinions from them appreciate their good will and analyze the various sources of inputs.

What is the best choice for my child, and how do I make it?

The best thing to do would be to trust one’s gut, one’s intuitions.

A friend maybe talking to you eloquently about how well her son is taking up his tennis coaching these days. As an intuitive parent, one may just listen to her friend, but deep down understand that her own son is not yet ready to enter the same tennis court. This parent uses her intuition to respond to her child’s needs and feedback signals. Even though she is bombarded by tons of opinions from all sides, she never goes by the ‘shoulds’ or compulsive thoughts but only listens to her single focused inner voice. Einstein says, “Once we accept our limits, we go beyond them.”

We have to embrace humility. There are two types of humility – passive and active. Passive humility is nothing but knowing one’s weakness and correcting it as it occurs. Active humility is accepting one’s mistake with enlightenment, getting curious about it, nailing the weak spots, laughing over them, loving them and also working on each one of them.

When a child fails, a parent gets the failure feeling only because she cares, she loves her kid. She also acknowledges that her kindness and love in understanding her child lies in all the trying and failing efforts of her kid, and yet she has not given up. Modern research suggests that humility is “robustly associated with kindness and other pro-social behaviors”.

Next, Einstein quotes, “Intellectuals solve problems, geniuses prevent them.” Parenting also needs to be proactive. A parent may allow her son to play outside for two hours if she wants her son to do his homework without distraction. Another parent may allow her child to spend her time with her in laws if she wants her daughter to help her with little chores around the house, on weekdays. Yet another parent feels if she puts her son to bed with a series of bedtime stories being read to him, he sleeps through the night without any break. All these are proactive ways to parenting.

Another way is to be focusing on the positives. A genius parent pays more attention to think deep down, imagine what her child needs, builds situations around her child so that she makes ‘happen’ what her child wants. She goes around the problem, does not focus on them.

“The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge but imagination.” I have, in one of my earlier-written articles, spoken about the advantage of free play. Free play is the best activity you could allow your child – this will surely encourage imagination in the kid, teach him problem-solving and many other relational skills.

Parents find it easy to be feeling always pressured and to ‘teach’ their kids all sorts of things – letters, numbers, reading, language and more. Of course, these things are important milestones to be mastered in one’s scholastic development. But free play fosters more intelligence than all of this knowledge on language, reading and writing. Doll houses, toy-boxes, dress cupboards, puppet shows, pillow forts, local parks, one’s courtyard and backyard – all these are treasure houses children should explore to foster creativity and ingenuity, not just mull their heads over worksheets and assignment notebooks.

Finally, a healthy parent-infant communication pattern functions as a protective factor against all behavioral and emotional problems at a later stage. This relationship is not destiny, but it appears to establish lifelong patterns of relating to others in one’s life.

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Comments (3)

 

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    Sargam says:

    Beautiful share.

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    Arjun Kumar says:

    This is truly wonderful. Too good for both, parents as well as children. The essence of imagination. Dreaming. Enjoying life. Creativity.

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    Uma Attly says:

    Good article to be shared to all parents.. Thanks for this one.


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