Positives of Bedtime with Kids! – Part 1
Posted on: November 2, 2021.

Author: Prabhukrishna M | Content Creator/Chief Editor | YOKIBU Editorial

The ideation and substantiation of the subject in this article came forth from a conversation with a relative—who’d returned to India after working in the US for a few years—about his experiences of early fatherhood.

His American paediatrician had advised that his daughter who had been born in the US sometime in the early 2000s be encouraged, right since the first day of birth to sleep separately in a crib.

Having put his doctor’s advice to action, he’d placed his daughter in the crib at bedtime, but as intuitively expected she’d cried in her crib—lonely—but slept well when placed between her parents in their bed.

Being advised by his doctor in their next session not worry about the child crying in the crib, it was insisted that she continued being placed separately to sleep.

Though the doctor had intended well to advise that the child would learn not to cry if the parents didn’t pay attention to it—helping her grow to be independent—baby and parents had enjoyed sleeping together…

…having ignored the good doctor’s words more for convenience than intention, as the parents never felt comfortable putting their daughter to sleep separately, having enjoyed cuddling her on the bed.

The father revealed further that his daughter who was six years old at the time of the conversation—now almost a decade ago—still enjoys going to sleep between both her parents…

…amidst a lot of talking—about her day at school and stuff—and often even singing song, during bedtime, though happily uncertain…

…about, or not, helping her grow up to be independent—as their American doctor had insisted—but blissful in bedtime togetherness.

Incidentally, while extending the scope of the subject from dialogue to discussion forum, other parents were found to have similar opinions and views about babies not having to be put to sleep alone during bedtime.

One parent based his opinion on the subject in cultural difference, in complete agreement to the point while children of a Western origin can learn by themselves to be independent…

…Indian-origin children need dependency—care and attachment—to be taught independence, but along with good habits, cultural values, family bonding, and other social, emotional, and moral enrichments.

This parent also made a point of much critical significance—about parents mentioning only good, positive, soothing things to the child during bedtime, never about their day-to-day problems or family conflicts.

Another parent remarked that the first 10-12 years of a child’s life is the best time to spend with him/her, discussing classroom happenings, narrating stories, singing rhymes, enjoying TV cartoon shows…

…and that parents can no longer insist on dependence with their teenage ‘children’, who automatically begin to distance themselves from their parents.

This viewpoint on global cultural differences influencing local parenting was also shared by another parent who observed the new generation of young parents embroiled in the conflicts of “India against the West”.

…continued in the next part

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