The “MET-K” & “4 A”s of Effective Relationships!
Posted on: October 28, 2021.

Author: Prabhukrishna M, Content Creator/Chief Editor, Yokibu Editorial

A short note before getting to the actual “4 A”s of the subject in this article… any relationship—personal or professional relies firmly on the virtues of Honesty, Optimism and Hard work.

Sharing similar ideologies and acknowledging the same—which requires being a good conversationalist—helps a great deal in forming strong, positive relationships, and is a productive step forward in this direction.

Being able to engage someone in conversations on various topics—interspersed with a personal set of stories and opinions to share—will encourage others to build their relationships with you.

People with similar interests find a mutual resonance in their relationship together, based on their ability to seek and learn one another’s interests and dampeners and converse accordingly…

…which brings us “MET-K”the four pillars that support the “4 A”s … each “quality” in MET-K “grades” the intellectual and moral “standards” that reflect in any “relationship” built by the “4 A”s.

Mindfulness – Equality – Transparency – Kindness

Being mindful of what you tell someone or acknowledge something told by someone is the first quality that takes a relationship through the first grade“GOOD”.

Treating each other as equals—diplomatic “give-and-take”, accepting differences, shared decision-making, and mutual respect for ideologies—takes a relationship through the second grade“BETTER”.

Having no secrets, being consistent in thought, word, deed, and feedback, and not having to know about each other from a third person takes a relationship through the third grade“EXCELLENT”.

Kindness—compassion, empathy–sympathy, burden-sharing, replacing “anger episodes” with patience and intelligent communication—takes a relationship through the fourth grade“OUTSTANDING”.


A relationship blossoms only when those involved—each with his/her own personal quirks—bring something great to the table that fits together like a jigsaw puzzle

…unifying its parts—synchronizing and synergizing—and unfolding a quaint miracle to behold … being open-minded, morally-oriented, and passionate for building and sustaining it … together.

In any long-lasting relationship, effective communication—oral/behavioral/situational/attitudinal—forms the crux, along with a good sense of humor to lighten the mood…

…as we all often need some laughs in the roller-coaster ride of relationships … twisting, bending, swooping, and soaring on the rails of the “4 As”—

Affection – Acknowledgement – Appreciation – Acceptance

AFFECTION that parents show for—and is reciprocated by—their children is the first of the four quintessential virtues of building relationships, particularly over generation gaps.

ACKNOWLEDGEMENT is how parents establish and validate affection towards their children. But this should be more for the sake of the children who need to be ‘actively listened to’—not as a relationship protocol.

APPRECIATION is how we combine the likes of ‘Affection’ and ‘Acknowledgement’. Just the suitable count of words, at the right moment, in as genuine a cadence, sans authority and ego … is what it takes.

ACCEPTANCE is the final tile in the interlocking parts of the ‘relationship’ jigsaw puzzle—whose other tiles are Affection, Acknowledgement, and Appreciation—that brings it to life … fully and firmly established when appreciation is expressed by acknowledgement filled with affection.

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