I have often noticed this particular phenomenon occurring in one of my relative’s house:
Yes, I am celebrating my son’s 6th birthday. Oh, yeah! You may bring as many kids of his class as you know. The more the number, the merrier the party!
The poor lady, though, is a misfit as far as time and resource management is concerned. So she will always end up at a ‘breaking point’, which will show up in a variety of ways of behavior, ranging from a verbal yelling at someone to a physical assault on someone else, maybe the maid girl. It is also good to become aware of early warning signals. These could be one’s own personal symptoms that could serve as good indication to tell you that you are about to traverse on a slippery road and may any time ‘Slip’ and fall down. Once you start observing any tell tale sign of stress, you may prepare you mind to become alert and make yourself more aware and thus quickly enter into the ‘unwinding’ mode of distressing yourself, well in advance of the crucial time, when your stress symptoms are likely to show up.
Engage in an activity to help you unwind yourself from the stress syndrome. This will not only ease your mind and body but will also help you think efficiently and with better concentration.
Any busy parent can never look for a round-the-clock peace and harmony atmosphere at home, stunning for such an ideal climate in the family would be distant dream and an over ambitions proposal. One has to face the fact that ‘children’ havens and ‘stress factor’ are tow phrases that could well be used interchangeably in any family context!
When the parent knows to relax and ‘chill out’ in the home atmosphere, there is less atmosphere for stress to reside there. What will relax you solely depends on the individual’s personality type and lifestyle. Only when parents are relaxed, children will bask in the security of their parents’ emotional well being.
Revitalizing oneself is essential for a parent to be a happy parent. Remember, there is no ‘one-stop-one-shop’ outlet for distressing your self, each one of us has to choose our own way by the experimental method, to learn the formula of what + what makes us relaxed and throw away stress from our mind.
Calmness is an essential component of confidence.
To raise confident children, parents have to keep and maintain a calm disposition, whatever maybe the situation, miserable or even worse. I have listed below some signs of stress. Make a note of those and see which ones describe you best and try to be aware of them. Once you become aware of any of these signs, half your battle is won.
| Physical | Emotional | Mental | Behavioral |
| sweaty palms | depression | forgetfulness | restlessness |
| indigestion | confusion | worrying over insignificant things | argumentative |
| breathlessness | irritability | poor decisions | |
| dizziness | insecurity | obsessional thoughts | poor planning |
| Stomach cramps | ‘guilt’ feelings | Inability to think clearly | Poor financial plans |
| muscle fatigue | selfishness | nervous habits (nail biting, scratching) | |
| skin problems | boredom | going ‘blank’ making simple | impotence |
| weight gain/loss | lack of humor | mathematical mistakes | losing things increased |
| problems in menstrual cycles | moodiness | unable to relax/sleep | eating, smoking, drinking. |
| nausea | low self esteem | lack of assertiveness | |
| pins & needles | feeling of loneliness | racing thoughts | poor communication |
| frequent urination | anxiety | lack of concentration | poor communication |
| sims problems | poor listening | ||
| resistance in adapting to change |
If these signs seem to be appearing frequently and your relaxation activities don’t seem to work, let not children suffer the brunt of your stress behaviors. An alternative suggestion would be to evolve a self developmental plan that would be a holistic approach to assist you in the stress prevention program.
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