5. Lay ground rules – It is very important to chalk out a behavioral contract and communicate it to the child dearly so that the child is able to see a goal/a set of goals, know the rewards for achieving the goal/s and also understand the consequences if rules are not followed. Set up clear rules, goals and expectations.
It is very imperative that we are sure that the child is made to be aware of the consequences which will arise if rules are broken. Learning the consequences of unwanted behavior is very essential to help the child check his behavior even if he she is tempted to break rules or fails to control his/her negative actions.
It is suggested that the most appropriate reward/s could be the caregiver’s ultimate success in handling misbehavior in children. A special treat or a well sought reward can really help the child a long way in fulfilling the goal set by the caregiver – parent, teacher or parent figure.
6. Allow for generous buffer zone – Generally when children are found to behave abnormally, it is only something due to a child’s innate disability to be unable to control himself/herself. No child will adopt a misbehavior by conscious motives/plans. Extremes of bad behavior is usually due to unconscious drives or motives. The conflicts that arise are not discernable.
Hence we have to understand this feature in our child’s behavior and modify our behavior to adapt ourselves to the child’s inability to act ‘rightly’ under a given circumstance. It is best to encourage time outs or breaks while we try to implement any rules laid for dealing with difficult situations. We have to understand that the child is really having problems in handling his/her behavior in an appropriate manner. Give a fairly reasonable time out if you feel your child is having difficulty dealing with a situation.
Pushing or goading a child to do more / perform better within a short span of time will only worsen the intensity of the problem behavior. Similarly getting into a brawl or a screaming match is going to do no better in alleviating the situation.
Each child is unique in his/her own ways. A caregiver is the best person to gauge and decide what could work best for the child or what could worsen the situation while handling a child with defiant behavior.
A child with Oppositional Defiant Behavior could well be very difficult at times but we, as caregivers, must exercise almost patience and understanding while handling such children.
Most importantly, as caregiver, you need to take care of yourself seek the right support group, pool the right kind of resources such as to make your job easier and feel less stressed.
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