When someone is doing something or is about to do something, in a way we don’t want it to be done and when we are not able to accept it, we become angry.
However, when someone is doing something or is about to do something, in a way we don’t want it to be done – and we are able to accept it – We remain tolerant.
When someone has something which we don’t have, or someone is able to produce the results which we are not able to produce – and we are not able to accept it – we become jealous.
When someone has something which we don’t have or someone is able to produce the results which we are not able to produce and we are able to accept it we get inspired.
When someone is present in our thoughts, but if not physically present and we are not able to accept it – We say ‘I am missing you’.
When someone is present in our thoughts, but not physically present – and we are able to accept it – We say ‘I am thinking of you’.
Then emotional equation is quite simple.
Something + Acceptance = Positive Emotion
Something + Non Acceptance = Negative Emotion
So, it is not ‘Something’ or ’someone’ who is making us feel positive or negative, but it is our ‘acceptance’ or ‘non acceptance’ of something or someone, which is making us feel positive or negative.
It isn’t the world but the quality of our response to the world (acceptance or non acceptance) that determines the quality of our emotions.
“Next time we feel disturbed with a negative emotion, instead of asking who or what is disturbing us, we will examine who or what we are resisting (not accepting) that is causing this disturbance in us.
We will replace resistance (non acceptance) with acceptance, and the negative emotion will turn into a positive one.”
Emotional management begins by stopping to blame that ’something’ or ’someone’ and starting to take the responsibility to respond to life with ‘acceptance’
—By Debjani Ghosh of dnaassociates.org
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i agree n i always try keep this in mind.
by the way i suppose this whole article is from the book called “Unposted letters” by T.T.Rangarajan. Pls mention the credits of the original author.
Its well said than done…difficult but not impossible…
Sometimes we are so much emotionally charged that our mind takes a back seat and we react in an inappropriate manner…we all know that positive emotions and actions improves our quality of life but at the same time our mind wanders and negativity seeps in…Surely need to be more accepting…thanks
I was born with one sister and one brother, now I am alone b’cos of property issue, my mother is by my side. I am very depressed because of their attitude. So I feel single child is not a wrong option. I make my daughter mix up with her friends I create opportunity for her to be with her friends and to share with them. My husband’s side was exactly as what Mr.Mahendar has discussed here. Every issue has a positive and negative side.
We can give the best to our child and make them learn how to lead their life with what they have.